Welcome back to my Wellness Wednesday series! Every Wendesday I’m talking about my journey to health, in both in body and mind. Catch up with me every Wednesday as I talk about something that’s been on my heart and mind. You can read the first Wellness Wednesday here.
“Follow your dreams.” Possibly one of the most overused phrases that exists. Isn’t it so odd that when we are children all we hear are “follow your dreams” in one way or the other? Bright eyed new parents fawn over their darling children, swearing that they will do anything to help them achieve their dreams. They rock them on their laps and whisper in their ears that they believe in them and that they can do anything. Then suddenly those little children pass a certain age, and this cliche no longer applies. They are expected to work towards a “good” job, not necessarily one that will fulfill them. The emphasis shifts from passion to status.
As I talked about in my last Wellness Wednesday post, I believe that being “healthy” includes the mental aspect as well as the physical. And being mentally healthy means being at peace with you work/life/passion balance. In my life I have seen firsthand people who have forgotten who they are because of a job. They have put aside any hopes and desires in order to get the job with the most pay, the most hours, the most benefits. You see there’s two sides to this. On one side, you have the need for financial stability, something that is necessary to continue living. But on the other hand, you have what I’m going to call heart stability, which is that desire to follow your dreams that is only satisfied when you do things that you were created to do. I believe that in life we need to search for that perfect balance of heart stability and financial stability, or we will always be left wondering “What if?”
This is something I often struggle with in my life, as I strive to find that balance between financial satisfaction and satisfying my passion. My desire is to feel like what I spend most of my hours on is not fruitless. I want to follow my passion even if I’m unsure of where it will go. I would rather fail at living “the dream” than not ever try. The fact that so many never try is what keeps me going on. I want to find what I was meant to do. Maybe 10 years down the road this blog won’t be the creative outlet for me that it is now. Maybe by then I’ll have found something else that sets my soul on fire and gives me purpose as I wake up each morning. I don’t know what’s going to happen in my future…but that doesn’t mean I should settle for what is easiest.
Sometimes I wonder how my life would have turned out had I been encouraged to engage in a creative outlet more often from a younger age. While I do not regret the way I was raised, the emphasis was always on grades. It was all about getting good grades so that I could get the best job possible. College wasn’t really a choice for me, as my college was just assumed. In college I didn’t set out and pursue my dreams, I instead pursued what I thought I was capable of doing in order to make a good income. Something I wish I could now go back and change. For me, this blog has been something that has made me reconnect with my passions. It’s allowed me to do something that I feel has purpose. Something that I get excited about and love to work on. Something that fulfills me.
I don’t buy into the myth that money will make everything better. Or that a college education is necessary for every single person. Or that we should choose the safer route instead of the one that will be more fulfilling. I want more for us. I want us to feel happy and fulfilled. I want us to not stay forever in jobs that slowly suck away our happiness and our lives. A job is necessary for living. But it’s also something we all hope to find a passion in. I get so sad when I see people who get a stable job and no longer pursue the thing that makes them feel alive, they just say there’s not enough hours in the day to do both. They don’t believe that life can be any different. What I want to say is that I hope you’ll find 5 minutes today to return to your passion. To tell that little kid inside of you that it’s ok to spend some time on yourself and what you love. To believe that your life has a purpose beyond paying the bills. Whether that means a new job or maybe volunteering outside of work to make a difference…it will be different for every one of us. But somewhere along the way we all get a little lost in the routine of life and forget what it’s all about. We need to remember what it means to really live.